Celibacy
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this can be very confusing. Most people think of celibacy as abstaining from
sexual intercourse. It really means to refrain from being obsessed by cravings
of sensual desire. Sexual desires, however, can become sensual cravings. The senses left uncontrolled will cause over indulgence
and scattered our energy. Celibacy therefore means purification. Whenever we crave anything of the senses;
taste, touch, smell, sound, or sight we suffer and lose our ability to focus on
what is important in life and that is our health, happiness and peace of mind.
Craving means we become obsessed with having what we want and not necessarily what
we need. We are not satisfied until we possess. But remember whatever we have
right now can disappear in a moment. A drug addict spends all his or her energy
searching for the next fix. How can there be happiness in this?
All things in life are separate from the real us,
which is our soul. We experience life through the senses. We say I am hungry or
I am tired, but it is not you that is hungry or tired it is your body. You can change
your outfit to fit the occasion, but no matter how you dress or where you go,
you are always the same soul. Become the observer of life and not the sensual
addict.
Detachment from worldly desires is to practice celibacy.
We should enjoy the pleasures of life, but never be so attached that we become
obsessed. Everything in life comes and goes. The addict is happy until it is time
for the next fix.
There are three important areas concerning celibacy:
1. Always
hold the opposite sex in high regard
2. Consider
sexuality to be the means by which souls are brought into the world. It should
be an act of love and respect
3. Nothing
scatters the life-force more than sensual cravings. Therefore:
Avoid obscene and lewd expressions and jokes. Sensual
experience should be for the enjoyment and beauty of life. Be kind, loving and
be respectful. The sensual experience is the closest we get to touch another
perosn’s soul. The joy a soul feels when moving into the physical plane of sensual
enjoyment is pure bliss. When experiencing the physical aspect of sexuality you
are opening up a doorway for another soul to enter. Whether the soul chooses to
enter or not love is the best way to direct this energy. Celibacy is not about
abstaining. It is about refraining from being obsessed by the sensual desires
of life. It is about experiencing all of life with the purity of un-obsessed love.
Be pure.
Doctor Lynn