Saturday, February 25, 2017
Celibacy – this can be very confusing
Celibacy – this can be very confusing. Most people think of celibacy as abstaining from sexual intercourse. It really means to refrain from being obsessed by cravings of sensual desire. Sexual desires, however, can become sensual cravings. The senses left uncontrolled will cause over indulgence and scattered our energy. Celibacy therefore means purification. Whenever we crave anything of the senses; taste, touch, smell, sound, or sight we suffer and lose our ability to focus on what is important in life and that is our health, happiness and peace of mind. Craving means we become obsessed with having what we want and not necessarily what we need. We are not satisfied until we possess. But remember whatever we have right now can disappear in a moment. A drug addict spends all his or her energy searching for the next fix. How can there be happiness in this?
All things in life are separate from the real us, which is our soul. We experience life through the senses. We say I am hungry or I am tired, but it is not you that is hungry or tired it is your body. You can change your outfit to fit the occasion, but no matter how you dress or where you go, you are always the same soul. Become the observer of life and not the sensual addict.
Detachment from worldly desires is to practice celibacy. We should enjoy the pleasures of life, but never be so attached that we become obsessed. Everything in life comes and goes. The addict is happy until it is time for the next fix.
There are three important areas concerning celibacy:
1. Always hold the opposite sex in high regard
2. Consider sexuality to be the means by which souls are brought into the world. It should be an act of love and respect
3. Nothing scatters the life-force more than sensual cravings. Therefore:
Avoid obscene and lewd expressions and jokes. Sensual experience should be for the enjoyment and beauty of life. Be kind, loving and be respectful. The sensual experience is the closest we get to touch another perosn’s soul. The joy a soul feels when moving into the physical plane of sensual enjoyment is pure bliss. When experiencing the physical aspect of sexuality you are opening up a doorway for another soul to enter. Whether the soul chooses to enter or not love is the best way to direct this energy. Celibacy is not about abstaining. It is about refraining from being obsessed by the sensual desires of life. It is about experiencing all of life with the purity of un-obsessed love. Be pure.