Thursday, November 24, 2011
Aero*boga - Relationships are a paradox
Relationships present us with contradictions. They are a paradox. To live peacefully within these contradictions we must learn to walk the middle way. This involves learning not to identify with anything – neither pleasure nor depression, separateness or togetherness, attachment or detachment but simply to practice the middle way where we continually come back to the present moment putting aside our attachment to this or that position and just seeing what needs to be done in the present moment.
Now this does not mean that we should not take a stand – perhaps at this moment I need to assert myself – this may even involve a fight. But tomorrow circumstances may change and I may need to let go of my stand and let my partner’s needs take precedence. Hardening into one position makes us rigid and unavailable for love. The paradox of a relationship is that it calls upon us to fully express our needs and wants and to be firmly grounded, but at the same time to remain fluid and open to change; not to get fixed into any position and become identified with it.
Relationships are a paradox – asking us to give and receive. When coming from a place of love we learn to bend without losing our footing. We can only do this when we are open to change, energized with life and willing to connect at the spiritual level where we realize we are all one. Walk the middle way.Doctor Lynn